Dreamland

Like the Oregon air to the familiar air of my sonorizona skies, the air here tastes different. Sharper, somehow, like the world's edges have been honed to a painful point, of regret, of disgus, of humiliation, and void of morivation. It's been this way ever since that morning, the one where my body refused to sleep, sunlight refused to penetrate the fog clinging to the edges of reality. You know the one. That one where the ground beneath my feet turned to quicksand, swallowing me whole into a grief so profound it feels like a physical cavity in my chest. You understand, the loss of love, light, laughter, and the lingering luster of literal longer to live. See, I used to believe loss was a thief, snatching away pieces of you until you were a hollow shell. I've experienced a lot of loss in my lifetime. But now, I see it more as a sculptor, chiseling away at the familiar, revealing raw, jagged contours you never knew existed, yet somehow are brought into manefestation. It'...

The air here tastes different. Sharper, somehow, like the world's edges have been honed to a painful point. It's been this way ever since that morning, the one where sunlight refused to penetrate the fog clinging to the edges of reality. You know the one. That one where the ground beneath your feet turned to quicksand, swallowing you whole into a grief so profound it feels like a physical cavity in your chest. See, I used to believe loss was a thief, snatching away pieces of you until you were a hollow shell. But now, I see it more as a sculptor, chiseling away at the familiar, revealing raw, jagged contours you never knew existed. It's a relentless process, leaving you gasping for air, questioning the very fabric of the universe. The ache, oh, the ache. It wraps around your ribs like a barbed-wire embrace, squeezing the life out of every laugh, every smile. It sits heavy in your throat, choking back words that won't come, leaving you stranded in a silent scream. And th...

The question of whether grief and suffering are internally created or caused by external factors is complex and doesn't have a simple answer. Some people may feel like the pain raises from time shared with the one who's moved on and the memories they have of those moments. Others, often feel that the pain is enevitable because it is part of the invisible rope, the connection, that ties the two individuals together in spirit. So the answer is - It's likely a combination of both. In my contemplations I've come to understand how this is true. Please follow. Internally created: Personal connection:  The depth of grief and suffering often depends on the connection you had with the loved one. A close relationship leads to more profound emotional attachment, making the loss more impactful. Coping mechanisms:  Individual differences in how we handle emotions and manage difficult situations play a role. Some people have better coping skills and resilience to deal with lo...

Grief, an unavoidable part of life, has been explored in countless ways by many great minds. These quotes have captured some of the the essence of loss and the journey of healing. Loss is inevitable and ever-changing, but memories can provide solace, and the strength of the human spirit can carry us through dark times. Holding on to not much more than the phone calls of a mother who had just lost her son and the phone calls of a sister who just lost her brother, I found a desire to grasp onto the words and wisdom I could find within the archives of the internet that could provide me enough comfort to fight another day just so that I could live to offer something of value to these two women. I found very little, but it gave me more time to find that the only thing that helped was simply the knowing that their presence was what was keeping me alive - just knowing they are with me was enough. Knowing that it doesn't matter what I could offer or that having nothing to offer at all didn...

Consoling someone grieving can be a delicate dance, balancing empathy and support while respecting their individuality. Listen with empathy: Be present: Put away distractions and give them your full attention. Listen actively: Don't just hear, but try to understand their emotions and experiences. Validate their feelings, even if they seem difficult or intense. Use reflective listening: Repeat back key phrases or emotions to show you're listening and understanding. Offer silence: Sometimes words aren't enough. Be comfortable with silence and allow them space to express their pain. Acknowledge their loss: Use their loved one's name: Don't shy away from mentioning the deceased. Talk about their relationship and shared memories. Validate their emotions: Let them know it's okay to feel sad, angry, confused, or any other emotion. There's no "right" way to grieve. Avoid clichés: Phrases like "everything happens for a reason" or "they'...

While many people don't think about the hard that often occurs to someone who is going through the mourning of a loved one's passing, it is something that needs to be addressed. Often being overlooked, many people fall victim to abuse during this time as they're often weakened emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It would be admirable of you to protect someone who is grieving from harmful behavior, abusive people, and neglectful members of their support team. Dealing with grief can lave a person incredibly vulnerable, and it's important to ensure their well-being is prioritized. Here are some steps you can take: Assess the situation: Identify the harm: Is it verbal or emotional abuse, neglect, isolation, or something else? Understanding the specific type of harm is crucial for choosing the best course of action. Evaluate the severity: Is the harm immediate or ongoing? Is it affecting the grieving person's physical or mental health? More severe situations might ...